Make sure your love is unconditional. Make sure you love people in all kinds of "weather". Or else what is the use if we love a person only when he is good or she is nice? When I need the people most that's when they leave me. All the time. So please, I hope you won't be like that. We always have to consider the other party, your companion's situation and mood. Maybe he's in difficulty right now. That's why his mood is not so sweet.
Maybe she has so much work to do and so many headaches, so she cannot be so darling like usual. That time is the time when we need to show our most noble quality, the way we want ourselves to be.
要确定你的爱是没有条件的，要确定你在任何状况下、不论晴雨，都能爱人。如果我们只有在一个人好的时候才爱他，这样有什么用呢？当我最需要人的时候，他们反而要离开我，情况总是如此，所以我希望你们不要像那样。我们必须考虑对方或同伴的情况和心情，也许他正有困难，所以才无法保持美好的心情，也许她有太多事要做，太多头痛的事，所以才无法像平常那样亲爱，而这时正是该展现我们所自我期许的最高贵品质的时候了。
It's not that if you are sweet to that person then he will love you more. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. But that is not the point to be good and to be noble. To be good, to be noble is for ourselves because we choose to be that way, we want to keep being that way, and we feel good about it. It's not because, "Okay, now he needs me more. If I show more sympathy, then our love will be stronger"; It's not even to be considered.
并不是你对一个人很甜，他就会更爱你，也许他会，也许不会，不过这不是使我们美好或高雅的重点所在。美好或高雅是为了我们自己，因为我们选择成为那样的人，我们希望保持那样，我们觉得那样比较好。并不是说：「好，因为他现在比较有需要，所以我表现多一点同情心，我们的爱情就会比较稳固。」这甚至不是我们该考虑的事。
But most of the time we fail the test. When people are in most difficulty, we just leave them, or we are cold and indifferent. "Oh, you're not nice to me. All right, all right.";"You'll come and need me soon."; Of course they will. When they're in a better mood, when everything goes better, of course they'll come around. But then it's too late. Then it is not love anymore. It's just a need for each other. That's different, because you are used to each other and you need each other sometimes out of habit, out of convenience, out of financial security reasons -- anything. But it's not true love.
我们大部分的时候都无法通过这种考验，当别人正值最困难的时期，我们反而离开他们，或是显得冷淡、漠不关心，认为：「好，你不对我好，没关系，没关系，很快你就会回过头来需要我。」当然他们会，当他们心情比较好，当事情比较顺利之后，他们当然会回到你身边来，只不过那时就太迟了，就不再是爱了，只是彼此需要而已，那是不一样的！只是由于习惯、由于方便、或是经济安全因素而彼此需要而已，这不是真爱。